I heard a story about a tour guide who led risky white water rafting tours down perilous rapids. He was said to have one of the best records for not getting his rafters injured. One of the ways he accomplished this, had to do with one sage piece of advice. The trick when you see a dangerous obstacle is to look where you want to go, not where you don’t.
This same advice holds true in life. For example if you want to get out of your nine to five job, you might try saying something like this instead. I want to create income producing assets, sufficient to more than take care of my monthly expenses.
Don’t picture a purple elephant in your mind right now. Please don’t picture a purple elephant. Did you picture a purple elephant? I pictured it as I was writing it. In the same way you can’t help picturing that elephant, you won’t be able to avoid thinking negatively about what you don’t want. This focus will occupy our thinking resources on the wrong thing.
In past posts, I have talked about the importance of accepting our circumstances, and moving forward towards what we want. When we accept our current circumstances, it doesn’t mean we can’t go in another direction. It just means we are not going to give our circumstances the power to make us unhappy. It is the same thing with stating our goals in the positive.
If you have goals written down somewhere, check them for moving away from language, and replace it with moving towards language. When you are moving towards something it paints a positive picture, when you are eagerly moving away from something it creates a negative picture.
If you ever go white water rafting or car racing, remember to look where you want to go not where you don’t.