Month: January 2022

Goodbye Twitter


I decided this evening to delete my Twitter account. Our world is so polarized and Twitter is particularly polarized. I believe that in large part, it is people trying to have meaningful communication in so few words. I had a respectful back and forth on Twitter earlier this afternoon over a polarizing topic. I found it quite challenging to minimize offense in so few words.

I think the short form communication manipulates and emboldens it’s users to say things that feed the polarization. I also don’t get much traction out of Twitter.

Most importantly, I think it is imperative that we get back to having respectful conversations around important issues, as opposed to tweeting offensive blurbs back and forth. Twitters algorithms appear to feed polarization with intent.

If you are a fan of Twitter feel free to comment on this post as to why you do.

A short note on political polarization. Several years ago, I unhitched my wagon from politics all together. I did this for two reasons. First and foremost, I believe the solution lies with the people not the politicians. Secondly I woke up to my unconscious bias, and much of that for me was political in nature.

If you really want to make America great again, then learn to have respectful conversations on important issues with people who believe differently than you do. It is also important to remember that you can safely assume that anyone you talk to knows something you don’t know.

Goodbye Twitter!

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Are You Interested in becoming a data professional ? Data is the new oil.


As many of you know I am a part time remote life coach, but I am also a full-time Business Intelligence Specialist / Data Engineer. On a typical week for the last couple years, I have had at least one or two recruiters contact me to interview for data jobs. That activity seems to be ratcheting up. Data is the new oil. The one thing I love about my job in data, is the same thing I love about life coaching. It is adding value to people. It also pays extremely well.

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Add Focus and Discipline to Your Day


Do you want to increase your ability to focus and gain discipline consistently?  In this post I want to provide a practical exercise to increase your daily focus, and increase discipline over a period of time. If you do this exercise consistently over a week, you will notice a significant improvement.  I am not by any means completely effective, but this exercise has definitely been a game changer for me.  

Our minds can only focus on one thing at a time. This is a scientific fact. We like to think we are effective multi-taskers.  The truth is that we can become better at task switching, but it is not the most efficient way to get things done.  It takes time to task switch, and dilutes focus.

One common piece of advice from the most successful people, is to only focus on one goal at a time if possible.  If you are focused on growing your business, do your best to just stay focused on that.  This is not an easy discipline to develop, especially when so many of life’s demands are coming at us. 

On a micro level, we also need to limit the items we focus on the same way. This will keep us from diluting our focus, and make each minute of effort more effective. It will also make us more aware of our environment, which will keep us more alert overall.  Your unconscious mind is really good at alerting you of change in your environment.  If you are intentionally focused on fewer things at time, you have more capacity for overall awareness 

The first step in getting more focus and discipline in your day is to be completely aware of what you are up to.  Our minds get really busy, and sometimes we aren’t conscious of just how busy our minds are.  I recommend taking  five or ten minutes twice per day to do the following two-part exercise.

  • First find a quiet place first thing in the morning, and some other time later in the day.  Sit or stand someplace comfortable.  Take a deep breath, and then continue to focus on your breath in and out for the next few minutes.  If you notice any thoughts coming up, just acknowledge them but don’t react to them.  Go back to focusing on your breath.  Do this for around five minutes.  You will find your mind a little calmer and clearer. It is normal when you are getting started to  have a hard time staying focused.  The fact that you notice it, just means you are making progress. 
  • Next just think specifically about what you want to get done for the rest of your day. You may want to write them down as well.  As you do this, you may find your mind jump to other things.  You will notice this because of the first exercise.  This is a good thing.  When your mind begins to generate thoughts, just go back and focus on what you want to accomplish for the rest of the day.

If you have tried this, let me know how it has helped you.

Once you have done the exercise just go back to your day and execute on what you want to get done.  Throughout the day try to keep this awareness.  I will often take a minute or so, several times a day to just take a deep breath, and just focus on my breath in and out. 

A Dysfunctional Alarm Clock


I was reminded of this old post today, as I noticed my mental alarms going off during the day.

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This post will bring awareness to unnecessary alarms in your life. You can easily minimize these alarms to improve the qualify of your life.

Imagine you go to bed one night and your alarm clock goes off sporadically during the night. The first time it goes off you reset it, the second time you unplug it, and the third time you remove the backup battery. An hour later the alarm on your mobile phone starts the same pattern.

It isn’t hard to imagine having a challenging day after a night of multiple alarms. If this were to happen to you, you would no doubt get to the root of the problem and remedy the situation so that it wouldn’t continue to happen.

You may have this kind of thing happening in your waking life, and not even realize it. Your unconscious, like an alarm clock is a great tool to…

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Letting Go


Another year with COVID has passed.  How are you coping with what seems to be the new normal?  At a minimum it has been a very long running disruption of what we used to call normal.  Do you have more anxiety, or are you feeling the pressure of uncertainty?  I wanted to write this post to share something that hit home for me.  

It is during times like these, that it is important that we become aware of the thoughts we are having.  We all have an almost continuous dialog going on in our minds. Oftentimes we aren’t even aware of it.   To demonstrate what I mean, consider the following.

You are sitting in someone’s house and you notice a blue chair in the room. It is different from the other furniture.  Your brain starts the dialog.  

Wow that chair is bright blue, and it doesn’t match the rest of the furniture.  It’s a lot older than the other furniture too.  Wonder what the story is with that chair?  It must be sentimental, because it certainly doesn’t fit with the rest of the furniture.  I wonder if it is the last piece of old furniture they didn’t replace? Wait, the rest of the furniture is nice, but It doesn’t look new though.  I wonder if they bought the furniture second hand?………

Have you ever stopped to notice that chatter going on inside of your mind?  Just watch the morning news reports on the status of COVID, and pay attention to the chatter that starts in your mind.  Becoming aware of that dialog is the beginning of letting go.  

If we pay attention long enough we see that most of this chatter isn’t us willingly thinking, It is just thoughts that arise as an unconscious reaction to something we notice.  That chatter isn’t who we are.  We are the person who becomes aware of the chatter.  Unfortunately some people go their whole lives, never becoming aware of the fact that they are not their thoughts.  

Try to set a couple of reminders throughout the day to take a moment and be mindful of your internal dialog.  When the reminder goes off, notice how you are feeling. Notice what you have been thinking about.  Then take a few more minutes to notice whatever thoughts arise, but don’t react to them. Just notice and acknowledge them.  If you happen to be having negative thoughts, start to get curious about them and question them.  You are not those thoughts.  You are the one who noticed them. 

When a lot of people hear the word Mindfulness, they often think of meditation or religious practice.  Mindfulness is really just learning to pay attention to what is going on in your mind. 

It is times like these that our internal dialog can really impact how we feel.  Not only are we dealing with the pandemic, but we have taken political sides on it.  Much of the world is in a state of political polarity.  Social media can provoke a negative mindset with all the opinions on everything from general politics, and climate change to the pandemic.

If you practice becoming more aware of your internal dialog, you will begin to realize that you aren’t those thoughts. You are just the one noticing them.  Being an observer will naturally give you more control over just letting them go.  Going through this process has been a tremendous help for me, and I hope it will for you as well.

If you have questions or comments feel free to contact me or leave you comment below.